Men Who Lead

For the person who is hearing this and saying, how can I let them talk for that long? Because they'll talk my head off and they'll make five points before I can ever respond to address something because they're almost always wrong. And I need to address that. Here's what I would say.

If you really feel like, okay, well, if they go through all these points, I'm going to forget my points. And then it's going to seem like they're right for that person. This is what I would do and get out.

Honey, this is really important to me. I want to make sure I understand this and actually make sure we work on this. So do you mind if I just write down some notes while you're talking? And what you write down, this is important.

Don't write down the stuff you're going to respond with. That's bad. What you should be writing down is point number one, Michelle felt sad when I said.

You're really just writing down all her points because number one, that makes sure that you're listening. Number two, now you have the point that you want to respond with. So you won't forget- When it's your turn.

When it's your turn. So now you'll have point number one. I will not forget to respond to that with my version of events.

And so that way you are listening to her, but you're also not going to forget what you want to say back. But yes, don't interrupt them. Let them say everything out and then respond back.

And that always has worked better for us than interrupting.